So, i myself am a very romantic individual and will go to any lengths to be romantic for my Girlfriend.
I was wondering how romantic some of you are, and although it's very personal, how do you show your romantic side?
I myself, moved to greece three years ago, i now am running my own Restaurant & Bar. My girlfriend recently took a college course which takes 6 months to complete, so i am alas without her and the kid for 6 months. Well, until September for a week, and then when she finishes in january.
I am finding it difficult to continue my romantic side when we are 5000 miles apart. Currently finding someone to supply a bouquet of flowers to spell her name in the flowers, I've seen it done, it's going to cost a few hundred to have them placed so they do not move, and until they wilt away you can see her name and 381 in the flowers. 381, 3 words, 8 letters, 1 meaning for anyone wondering.
Back on her birthday this year, i went and rented out part of the local beach, i got a small party for her, and then we strolled along the Mediterranean beach, it was beautiful, the moon was perfectly situated above the sea so it reflected big and bold over the open sea, not a cloud in the sky, we walked until we got to a sculpture i paid to get done with happy birthday & i love you. With a boxed ring wrapped in a single flower, which was her favorite. I'm not ready for marriage as it happens, but i get a few words engraved on a diamond encrusted ring. =] It was probably the best laid plan i ever had, everything went perfect, even the sound of the sea, lightly and slowly coming in and out, to the sound of the ocean and nature. Oh, and then back at the party the sound of the DJ until about 5am in the morning.
I actually don't think this is morally reprehensible at all, based on the assertion that the perception of a relationship is more important to the perceived wellbeing of said relationship, than actual honesty within it.
I must admit to having made some leaps of logic. Specifically, I assume the facade to which EnterOrion is referring was the facade of genuine feelings where none existed in a past relationship.
So what is essentially going on is his boyfriend or girlfriend is engaged in a relationship under false pretenses. Whomsoever is putting on the facade (let's call him ExitOrion) is not holding up his end of the bargain: He says he feels something but does not. His romantic partner (let's call her Nyla, just for fun) proceeds to act on the assumption that he does, in fact, feel as he says he does. That's where the harm is done: Nyla is not being treating fairly, as she's giving (whatever) in exchange for nothing, but is told she is receiving something. Furthermore, she is being told she is receiving something in which she places a lot of value. Harm done to others for no good reason is morally wrong.
Now, if Nyla discovers ExitOrion's deception, she would be very hurt. In that regard, he is putting her at unnecessary risk for no good reason. My personal belief is that is as bad a transgression to knowingly do something that, if discovered, would likely cause her such great harm. Sort of a "It is a crime, even if you aren't caught" thing. Putting others at risk for no good reason is morally wrong.
So, does ExitOrion have a good reason for such deception? I don't know. I can't think of any good reason he might have. The only reasons I can think of are at best base and at worst... Let's not talk worst-case-scenarios. They are often useless in rhetoric and, frankly, make me a little sick.
So that's why I think EnterOrion should think very carefully before perusing a romantic relationship, and should certainly think about others before himself. Any important points I missed/botched?
I'm gona lean on the side of this being an online gaming site and not much romance in these ppl. I think i do have a little bit tho. But i'm not the most romantic guy out there. My girl likes to just cuddle up and watch tv
it's the little things that count the most. If we are sitting watching tv together during commercial breaks i will sometimes take her hand and softly kiss it. I will sometime come up behind her wrap my arms around her waist and and kiss her on her cheek, sometimes she will look back at me so I kiss her lips. Don't forget the little things that might not seem romantic either. For instance if you have dinner together get up and take her plate to the sink so she can sit and relax after eating. Offer to cook the meal. if she's busy with say cleaning, offer to help out with the chores.
Girls, guys on average are more visual an physical. So dress and act sexy. You don't have to do it in public, you can save it for that special someone. Personally I think doing that kind of stuff for just him makes it all that more special.
One thing I'd like to say is have confidence. You won't get very far without it, and if you truly love the person, that should be all the confidence you need. Chances are, you won't find someone who shares your feelings for them without getting hurt a couple of times, but I'd say it's worth it in the end.
Just show your love for the other person in any way you feel you should, just tweak it a little so they can understand it if you have to. But don't go through the trouble of changing your act altogether.
Bah, who am I kidding, I for one have never experienced love. Not to try and earn your pity, but it's almost like I'm incapable of it entirely. Kinda like EnterOrion, I guess. I'm ready for love in every way I can possibly anticipate, and I have had quite a number of people fall for me, but still no dice.
Be nice. A girl I knew had a friend die, so I comforted her, and after she got over it she was crazy about me. Too bad I have no interest in her. Ah well.
i think the most romantic thing i can remember doing for my wife is lighting a whole crap ton of candles, and making her a big bubble bath, then i took the our daughter to the park and dropped her off with my sister, came home, got in the bath with her, and then we cuddled until we fell asleep, of course she was 7 months pregnant at the time, so i think she deserved it. oh oh and chocolate covered strawberries
Lets seeeeeeeeeee the most romantic thing ive done for a boyfriend.... uh. I think the best thing not really the most romantic is watched a few football games together. I'm not your typical girly gal. lol. OH wait no, the most romantic thing I've done for a past boyfriend... I snuck some real brownies in the hospital when he had surgery and then we ate the brownies on the hospital bed together. We both loved brownies. Other than that, he did all the romance stuff.
Representing as a girl on your profile won't do you much help either. Just saying.
And now, on the topic, I'm really not eligible for a response, as I've yet to receive a chance for being romantic. Still, I like the stories here, gives people a chance to learn a thing or two.
