ok. so my parents promised to buy me this video game that i really wanted as a reward for getting into this honorable mention thingy as an ambassador of excellence. first of all, they promised it would be last Saturday, which they did not do. later they "romise" that they would buy it by yesterday, which of course, did not happen. now they say they are not going to buy it at all because i have apparently "not listened to them" in some way. what do i do?
It is just a game, really, but promises are promises. They broke their promise twice and now intended of keeping the promise broken. Confront them is what I would do. Say something mature, like "Mom, dad, you promised me. I didn't do anything wrong, and if I did, tell me specifically. You BROKE the promise. Have you learned NOTHING from YOUR childhood? Have you not learned not to lie? I admit it's just a game but still, YOU LIED!" When I capitalized the words don't throw a tantrum, that'll discourage them further. Instead just put mature emphasis.
lol good idea bunnyriper. but my parents are like no others. they have no soft spot. no mercy. they don't care. if i tell them that they would laugh and tell me to shutup. i know my parents sound like the worst but they are actually nice. but they are unfair, super naive, and they think they know everything.
You should just ask them if they want you to grow up to do nothing but lie to everybody, and would be impossible to trust. When they say no (I doubt they want you to be like that), then ask them why they are teaching you it, considering they can't be trusted either. Children look at their parents and do what they do. By breaking a promise, and making it look like something you can do without consequences, they are indirectly showing you it is okay to do so, and nothing will happen about it.
I'll give you an idea become independent and not listen to them for a week then if they dont do what thay promised tell them they such big LIARS i mean my parents arnt that mean to me but tell them you promised and wont liten to them ever again.
I have parents EXCATLY Like that. They say that they will do something, don't, then find some way to blame it on me. Adults are just Big Kids who owe money. End of Story. Like saturday, I was supposed to go to a Percussion Ensemble party, I told them 2 weeks beforehand and reminded them AT LEAST once a day. I cleaned my room, the kitchen, did the laundry, cleaned my little brothers room, cleaned the den, THe patio, and the pool. They said I could go 2 days before saturday. saturday came, and I couldn't go because I didn't empty the Cats litter box. (fml) My parents break promises all the time. They don't care at all.
thanks guys. turns out that they thought i was playing too much games and didn't want me to play more( for some reason i don't know) and now that i said i wouldn't play as much, they would let me have it.
Yes, I get they lied to you, but honestly? Its not that big of a deal.
Personally I believe it depends on whether he is complaining about them lying about the game, or having his trust broken after it being confirmed a number of time, and this trust break being for no or a stupid reason. It might not be a big deal, but it is still a sign that they believe they can still do such things without him either noticing or complaining about it. A good family relies on trust. It would have been a different issue if they had told him they were not able to buy it, or that they think he should wait a bit with it, or that they would rather give some money, then he would be able to get the rest of the money himself and buy it. The example in the OP looks more like bribery, and that stops being effective when children start in school. Well, not the bribery, but the "carrot, no carrot" method. To be honest, it does seem rather unfair to cancel a promise on so little ground. Or rather, it was not the rules of the promise. It would be something similar (though blown up here) to say you will be home at a certain time, and then get back 3 hours too late, because your mom didn't make you you favourite dinner. It is childish and hurts the trust in the family. /rant.
But if your trust for your parents is broken over a video game, its really not a big deal. I can see if they said they would buy you it for you for like....your birthday for example, but you got into an honor society (was that it?) which regardless of reward or not, is a good thing.
I see what you mean baout being mad beacuse they lied, and blah blah blah, but come on. You said that they told you that you dissrespected them or something along those lines. You may have done so. There your parents, and yo ushould respect them. Maybe they didn't do what yo uwanted, but it dosn't matter. There your parents, they can do that.
But if your trust for your parents is broken over a video game, its really not a big deal.
I agree. I am still holding my ground that it would be a big deal still, if you look away from the game, and look at the way the trust was broken. "You can have it, you can have it, you can have it, no you can't."
Considering he is a teenager, everything can be blown out of proportions by either side. Teenagers have a way of irking others, and some parents have a way of responding in weird ways.
